Since Eleanor's visit with her sister in law Donna, she has been preoccupied with the question of what is going to become of her when she is too old to take care of herself. Donna is moving in with Paul and Nancy Neeley, and Eleanor is wondering who she will move in with. She has even referred me to an article in Reader's Digest about parents moving in with their children. She has become more and more concerned about her bank statements and the cost of living at Heartland. Her decision to give up her walker and use the wheel chair has definitely slowed her down and made things more difficult for her from the mobility standpoint. I've given up trying to get her to use a walker or get out of bed for lunch because all we seemed to do was argue. I concluded that she has make these decisions, so when I come to visit, I try to enjoy my time with her.
I can recall my experiences with Joanne's mother Mary, and Aunt Marge. They both struggled to maintain their independence, but ultimately they realized they needed to get more help. I'm not sure what we will decide about her question.
